Women - Are We Chameleons or Slaves for Men?

A friend of mine text me today extremely excited about a new book Steve Harvey has released called Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man. She was excited about it and told me that all the ladies were talking about it at the beauty salon and that it's a best seller at the book stores. I read her text message, mentally shrugged it off and remembered only a few days back reading about it in January's Jet Magazine. I had debated from the that point about buying it. But, just never got around to finishing that mental debate and reminded myself that there were books at home that are waiting in line for me to read.

I absently placed my Moto Q on the desk and continued what I was doing, when all of a sudden she texts me again. I grabbed the phone, and there she was explaining more about the book and how she used it on the guy that she's dating, and how one of the questions Steve Harvey suggested worked like a charm... just like he said it would.

I half cared and half thought I'd wish she'd go back to reading the book, so I can go back to doing what I was doing. The third text popped in just when I had finish reading the last one. I thought to myself, "This girl is too excited!" It's as if Steve came out with a magic formula to solve relationship problems between men and women.

I conceded just to be released from her texting grip and wrote back I'd buy the book tomorrow. Admittedly, her eagerness and excitement sparked in me a smidgen of interest in buying the book.

The suddenly I began thinking about Steve Harvey's book title, Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man . Now, of course, I really need to read the book, because the title is not the entire story. But, that title sure makes me feel that I'd be the ideal woman for a man. Think about it. He would have the entire package. A woman feminine in every way, but can understand the thoughts, desires, concerns and passions of a man.

OK... say I finally get the man. When do I go back to being me? When do I go back to thinking like a woman? And what's wrong with thinking like a woman in the first place? And when does he act like a man and think like a woman? Or is that just too feminine for him to do? Would it be too much to ask him to get in touch with his feminine side in order to understand us ladies a bit more? Or can't we both understand that we're different and that we are who we are? Are we women to stifle are emotions because men have a hard time responding to them? When do we get to be women and be appreciated and embraced just for being us? Does the title mean that we've been wrong for thinking like women and the relationship disasters are our fault, and men are released from any of the blame?

We accommodate men in almost every way, including with our attire. The latest fashion has it that our blouses show so much cleavage than ever before. Just check out the magazines and television shows and commercials. That's not an example of women's liberation being urged. That's a form of sex, which attracts the attention of men. I can't think of a woman who would want to show her cleavage for any other reason. You tell me what normal man is not going to aim his eyes at one of his most favorite delicacies of a woman's anatomy? A friend told me that her husband would not allow her to go to bed with a silk scarf on. That she had to come to bed every, single night looking sexy, regardless of how he looked. She admits that keeping up with his request, and many others is time consuming and difficult. But, she doesn't want him to go elsewhere to find the comfort of another woman. On the other hand, he will not allow her to require much from him.

I can give numerous examples of what we women do and how we dress to receive a man's attention. But, now not only must we be sexy, hardworking, house cleaners, cooks (in some cases), sexual gratifiers and sexual freaks, but now we have to think like a man. Well, hell! Now, I know why all the gay guys are scooping up what's left of the men left and right, or why there's so many under cover brothers!

It seems we must be and have quietly conceded to being the mighty chameleons. It's not just desired but required to get a man these days. But, remember, I'm just basing this fleeting whim off of a title. I think I better get the book. I'm sure that's not what the book is about. Because if it is, I'm going to be pretty pissed off.

Pressing Through...

A stomach virus suddenly and viciously hijacked me and left me weak and bedridden for two days. During those two lifeless days I had no desire or energy to think about working out, let alone work on my plans for BlackFitAndSingle.com. I laid there weak and tired and thinking about last week's unfortunate delay. There was no way I could mentally work within the walls of my own apartment without my cat, Sweetpea. She died suddenly and traumatically. Even now, I can't bear to write much more about her than this. The week before that I experienced pain in my back so severe I almost went to the emergency room. It seemed as if the last four weeks were cursed weeks for me.

This week, I somehow caught some bug and I now sit here with some uncontrollable chest cold and vicious cough. Thank God I am not suffering any nasal congestion or a runny nose. But, it's not smart for me to go outside and run right now, as the congestion is rooted in my chest. But, my mind is clear! Clear enough to plan and prioritize all I need to do to make my business successful!

It took me years to get off my duff and do something for me. To do something I believe in and I would be passionate about. I love what I'm doing now. I am creating a dating and fitness website that will help people become and remain healthy while finding their true love! I can't let obstacles, large or small, interfere with my mission and passion! It took me years to finally step out and do something on my own. The death of my Sweetpea and minor physical ailments may have slowed me down. But, these things and future obstacles will not stop me from succeeding!

I'm coughing and writing you at the same time, because I refuse to delay my purpose any longer. These are the tidbits of difficult times. If I can't get through these, how will I get through the most difficult times that awaits me?

So, what did I do today regardless of my nagging cough and aching chest? I purchased my hosting service for BlackFitAndSingle.com and formed its LLC! That only took a click of a few buttons and a phone call... oh yeah, and some money, of course!

Now, I'll take a shower, curl up on my sofa, and continue to plan the pre-launching part of it.

Whatever is going on in our lives, we must remain focused! It's easy to turn our heads at the slightest inconveniences in our lives. If it's our time to shine, let the light in from all angles! Obstacles will come at us like shattered glass at impact. But, what does it matter? We must clear the mess up and keep heading toward what we were created to do!

Allow Me To Introduce Myself, and My Business...

Okay, I have to take this thing seriously for more reasons than being held accountable to you. Not only is my reputation on the line, but so is my new business. My health, my fitness, and my entire life is my business. I've just chosen to share my progress with you and have invited you to join my fitness cause and my pre-launch progress of my new dating website, BlackFitAndSingle.com due to launch in April of 2009!

I designed this website for people who are serious about finding and staying committed to their fit love, while continuing to stay committed to their fitness goals.

Aren't you tired of the yo-yo games you play with your weight and the games people play in relationships? BlackFitAndSingle.com brings together people 25 and up who are tired of the gameplaying and are looking to find a serious and committed relationship with a like-minded mate.

This website is also for me. If I can stir up your confidence to find the right mate and stay focused on your fitness goals, then surely I will also do the same. I want to venture through the struggle, the challenge, and the fun to become as fit as I possibly can. I want to encourage every mature adult to get fit and to believe that their true mate is waiting for them on BlackFitAndSingle.com.

BlackFitAndSingle.com will offer not only an opportunity to find your true and fit love, but it will also contain useful articles on health and fitness, relationship tips, and a host of healthy and delicious recipes. Of course, a dating website wouldn't be a dating website if it did not host forums, chat rooms, and instant messaging.

As the website continues to mature, each profile will house a workout calendar that you can choose to share with others and a dream board to set your fitness goals. You will be able to search our comprehensive directory of health clubs and personal trainers all over the country. Because of the numerous features that will be offered, I will continue to share them with you through this blog.

I have plans for this website. And all of these plan are for your benefit!

I will continue to share my fitness progress, along with the pre-launch progress of BlackFitAndSingle.com. I look forward to your questions, any ideas you may have to share, and your patronage.

To your fitness and future love!

Norine Jackson
President of
BlackFitAndSingle.com